Story Time

I recently went on an entrepreneurial sabbatical that aligned with my favorite holiday: my birthday. This sabbatical came as a result of a comment from a dear friend who shared that my latest content was making her feel guilt. I had been speaking on the topic of my thesis, which explores the impact of the mother’s microbiome on fetal neurodevelopment. It took me a full year to speak on this topic, and when I finally did, one of my close friends took offense.

I quickly went into coaching mode and asked some explorative questions, which clarified for us both that her guilt existed long before my content. Nevertheless, I immediately recoiled at the thought that I was creating yet another outlet for mom guilt. As if society doesn’t give moms enough to worry about, I certainly did not want to contribute.

I stopped making content and started traveling. I traveled up the coast of California, finding delight in my new state, and traveled inward to find the purpose for my posting. Both journeys grounded me in a centered state of knowing that I am leading with love. Love for who I am and what I have created, despite the setbacks that were given to me in my developmental stages.

Sidenote for Moms

I do not create new mom content to make seasoned mothers feel guilty. I create new mom content for their children — the child I once was. The child who wasn’t diagnosed with ADHD until 19 and had felt as though something was “wrong” for many years before formal treatment.

As that child, I didn’t experience my mom’s guilt; I experienced my own shame. Shame for how my brain didn’t work as the adults around me believed it should. They didn’t know there was a difference in my cognitive function, only a difference in the way I behaved from the “normal” kids. Fast forward to this year when my friend said I was the cause of her frustration and BAM! More shame.

Your child doesn’t relate to your guilt; they relate to their shame. Your vibration of guilt is attracting their vibration of shame and vice versa. You have the capacity to raise the vibration for both of you through the act of unconditional love. The same unconditional love you have for your child — turn it inward toward yourself. I promise you there is no universal shortage of love, just societal blockages we allow.

So, Let’s Talk Shame

Shame is at the bottom of the emotional guidance scale, grouped with guilt. The emotional guidance scale was adopted from the teachings of Abraham and Esther Hicks as a roadmap of vibrational output as defined by emotion. The only vibrations lower than shame/guilt are those of fear and powerlessness. I don’t know about you, but I do not enjoy sitting in low vibrational states, so my sabbatical was taken to move up the scale — and here’s how I did it.

First, I searched inside myself for my purpose in posting, as described above. When I remembered who I was and why I was doing this, I got a little irritated with my friend. I thought about posting a blog to undermine her comment. I knew this wasn’t what Love would do.

I continued up the scale to reach doubt and worry and was reminded by one of my current clients that I am making a difference for pregnant women who are my ideal demographic at this point. She re-signed for another alignment program while I was feeling worried that my content wasn’t creating the impact I meant for it to. This act led me to hopefulness — that what I was communicating was empowering those who were willing to be empowered.

From here, I leaned into positive expectation that if I was helping one mom, then I could help all moms. So I leaned into this clientele and was optimistic about attracting more. In my eagerness to serve, I created new resources, new marketing funnels, etc.

Finally, I Remembered My Passion

I am passionate about helping women reclaim their power, pregnant or not. I remembered that I am an Integrative Alignment Coach who helps women find harmony between their internal and external environments in order to give themselves — and subsequently their children — the best life possible.

Because that is what we all deserve.

We are spiritual beings having a human experience, and sometimes the human experience is harder than we’d like it to be. Wellness is our natural state of being, and we’ve been conditioned to create blockages. Through empowered alignment coaching programs like those offered at Wellness Without Walls, we can resolve those blockages — whether they exist in our mind, body, or spirit — to return to our natural state of living well.

Accepting this wellness brought me back to my highest vibration of pure love. A friend I consulted with during this explorative time told me to remember the landmark question: “What would Love do?” And it has been my guide ever since.

So here’s what I think Love would do.

What Would Love Do?

Love would write a blog explaining the journey and the new tool I’ve added to my coaching toolkit, as inspired by Abraham Hicks in the book Ask and It Is Given. The Emotional Guidance Scale is a powerful tool in giving language to our process and celebrating our progress.

Each move up the rungs of the emotional ladder is reason for celebration.

We know that Micro Actions lead to Macro Alignment, and to continue to vibe high, we will celebrate each time we move in the direction of our best lives. Even if this means we’re celebrating anger one week (because it’s higher than depression) and celebrating doubt another week (because it’s higher than blame).

If we notice the pattern in the scale, the further you move away from the desire to exert any form of external control (in your life or in the lives of others) and move closer to acceptance for what is and what can be, you vibrate higher and higher until you flow in a constant state of unconditional love — for the world around and within you.

This is integrated alignment, and this is why I create content. I want for you what I’ve created for myself, and the only way to do so is to use the science and soul of my journey to reflect your light unto you until you’re so content in your life that you no longer have to commit to coaching. Unlike the healthcare industry I come from, I don’t want return customers — I want empowered clients.

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PS: This Is What I Mean By Vibration

This Universe is made of vibrations — energetic currents — all around and within each of us. You have the ability to create your energetic currency through your thoughts and actions. What you think is what you create. What you intend has no meaning if it is not aligned with how you act.

On the smallest scale, single-celled microorganisms exhibit Brownian motion, which is the entropy of particles both seen and unseen acting on the organism. Guess what? On a larger scale, the same is happening to you — first with your cells and then with your whole self.

A principle I enjoy more than entropy (random movement of particles) is syntropy (aligned movement of particles).

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